The Unhappy Mind of an Unhappy Thyroid

I sat in the family room with my parents while my mom read and my dad channel-surfed.  I had my dad check what was playing on a few of the T.V. stations that I usually enjoy, and saw that The Little Couple was on.  Some years ago I was a dedicated viewer of the show, so I felt sad to hear the recent news of Jen Arnold's cancer.  The show features the day-to-day experiences of two little people that are married, and Jen is the wife in the "little couple" duo.

After watching the show for a few minutes, I was awed by Jen's attitude.  She was born with dwarfism, underwent multiple surgeries and hospitalizations as a child, struggled with infertility, battled cancer.  She lives in a world where her stature makes her 'abnormal,' which adds to her slew of trials.  I began to think about how inspiring it is for people who face adversity to maintain positive attitudes in light of all the negativity they could focus on.  I can think of a woman I knew who has now passed from cancer, but while she was still alive and undergoing chemo, she exuded peace and joy unlike even the healthiest people I knew.

But then I started to think about maintaining a positive attitude when you have Hashimoto's disease.  You can tell yourself to buck up, or just think positively, or focus on all the good in life.  Hey, it's not cancer, right?  The fact is that autoimmune thyroid disease often robs you of the ability to be positive in the first place.  The depression, apathy, negative moods, feelings of worthlessness can be profound--and they are all due to the malfunction of a butterfly-shaped gland in the throat.

Perhaps that's what makes invisible autoimmunity particularly ravaging on the body.  Not only does Hashimoto's cause physical pain, exhaustion, brain fog, weight gain, but it also takes control of the very ways in which we think.  Even if we wanted to think positively in spite of our circumstances, we can't.  And the loss of control over our very perceptions of the world and ourselves makes us feel very helpless indeed.

I don't mean to minimize potentially fatal conditions by any means, but only to point out that autoimmune disease is a beast of its own.  Sometimes I'm hard on myself for not being more upbeat or energetic or productive or grateful.  I forget that my hormones are giving my body all the wrong signals, and my metabolism is sluggish, and I'm experienced chronic inflammation.  It's so good to be thankful no matter what a person's lot--but it's also okay to be sick and to validate very real experiences of suffering, without feeling guilt associated with not focusing on blessings apart from illness.

I think, for me, a loss of some sense of control over my body has been one of the hardest parts of battling autoimmunity.  Currently, I feel as though I've given up even trying to control the things that I can--and I find this makes my condition worse.  The elimination diet, and carb-counting, and exercise regimen actually give me greater health.  But perhaps some part of me is in denial that those things are a necessary part of my reality, and so I willfully choose to ignore them as a means of reasserting control over my life--which actually ends up leading to less control as I become sicker and my overall mood declines.

It's a tiring cycle, and sometimes I wonder if I'll be forever mourning the loss of what would have been a 'normal' life.  You would think that by now I would have come to terms with my reality, but I still think longingly about what could have been (or, perhaps even what I thought should have been).  The one chance I have of finding positivity amidst the struggles (a.k.a. controlling my mind) is to take control of my body and health in the few ways I can.  Even if I can't choose to be happy right now, I can choose to take better care of myself, which I hope in turn will bring with it the happiness.