I am a survivor.

That moment when you remember how your professors radically changed your life...

That moment when you're reminded of the vision you held for your future...

That moment when you realize you're a survivor.

Today is the 16-week anniversary of my total thyroidectomy, and thus my 112th day of being cancer-free.  These anniversaries are largely non-monumentous.  Every few weeks, I take a photo of my scar and post it on Facebook with a caption about which anniversary I've reached.  The photos always garner "likes" and comments, and they're a small and simple way for me to celebrate.  I have also been turning these photos into "covers" for my Facebook profile, after I add to them the statement "I am a survivor."

The fact that I'm a survivor has been a conscious reality since the day I was diagnosed with cancer.  But I have given the title (survivor) little meaningful thought in the past few weeks.  I don't know that I really considered what the word meant beyond the fact that it made a statement about my having battled cancer.  However, something in me shifted tonight as I read those words.

I've been struggling a lot lately with trying to figure out the future.  I realize that working in retail is unsatisfying and impractical for the long-haul.  I want to contribute something to the greater good of mankind--research, teaching, love.  I want to make a difference in the world.  As an INFJ, my heartstrings are always pulled in so many directions.  I read an article recently that said that career options for INFJs are always simultaneously exciting and heartbreaking.  As idealists, the world of possibility is thrilling and produces in us all sorts of fantasies about the future.  However, all of those possibilities are also crippling, because we come to realize that to pursue one pathway is to sacrifice another.  We can't do everything.  And so at once none of the options are appealing any longer because we can't do all of them in one self-designed career (wouldn't that be nice?).  It's frustrating.

So, I've been dealing with all of that INFJ confusion--the appeal and drawbacks of every job out there.  Add on top of this the fact that INFJs often feel misunderstood (and often are misunderstood) when sharing their intuitive insights, so people write off this deep analysis of future options as crazed neuroticism.  The INFJ then packs up all this thought and places it back into the very personal introverted intuitive luggage, and once again starts mulling over the more "conventional" options, because those aren't considered "crazy."

And then I get to throw an autoimmune disease, endocrine disease, MTHFR gene mutation, and histamine intolerance into the mix of my endless thought processes, which does result in a certain amount of crazy as I try to create a game-plan for my future.

The past few weeks I've been revisiting the idea of pursuing a Ph.D., as I think it may be one of the only career paths that affords me the level of freedom and time for contemplation that I'm seeking.  The struggle I have been facing with this idea is what kind of research agenda I would propose in my personal statement.  I want to write something honest and compelling, but to be honest would be to say that I really don't know what I want to do doctoral level research on.  Earlier tonight I read through old personal statements and academic essays, and then found a letter I wrote to my professors when I graduated from Cal Poly.  The letter mostly talks about how their mentorship and guidance is what made me want to become a professor in the first place (over eight years ago), and how I wanted to inspire my future students in the same ways my teachers inspired me.

When I finished reading the letter and closed it on my desktop, the first thing I saw was the cover photo I had posted on my Facebook profile earlier today.  It felt like the "I am a survivor" statement was boring a hole into my heart.  For the first time, those words made me want to cry.  They no longer just meant that I battled cancer, but that who I am in my very essence is a culmination of every event that has ever happened to me, both in the past and moving into the future.  I could easily say "I have hope" or "I have a future," and they would mean the same thing as telling people that I'm a survivor.

Writing this now brings to mind the verse that was a favorite for years and years--the one that all my friends knew I loved, and that caused them to give me knowing glances whenever we read or heard it.  It was my signature verse, for reasons that I won't outline in this post.  But, suffice it to say, the words still hold profound meaning in my heart, and are something I think I need a reminder of today.

Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'" (New International Version).

or

"I know the plans I have in mind for you, declares the Lord; they are plans for peace, not disaster, to give you a future filled with hope" (Common English Bible).

I take the GRE in one week.  My prayer is that during the test, these words will be my companion:

I am a survivor.

I have hope.

I have a future.

For You, My Fellow Introverted Idealists, My Fellow Autoimmune Disease-Sufferers

What if I told a new narrative for my life?

Last year in one of my graduate seminars, we read a book by Geraldine Pratt in which she discusses transit lane versus trapped narratives.  Transit lane narratives are the dominant discourses of the most visible populations.  The ones told and retold by the media, in our schools, by way of a constructed cultural consciousness.  The trapped narratives are those of oppressed peoples, that get bypassed for the more "important" narratives--that stay hidden away because they contest our neatly-constructed cultural consciousness.  They would upset the status quo.

And, when I shift the concept of these narratives from macro to micro, I realize that I have designed the same system in my own life--for my personal narrative.  I have an idea of who I am or who I should be, informed by choices I've made over the years, words that people have spoken to me, beliefs I have been trained to believe about myself or have wrongly assumed about myself.  I have been fixated on one narrative that is defined by the woulds and shoulds and supposed tos.  A narrative that is neatly-constructed and deeply embedded in my self-consciousness.

Perhaps the real narrative for my life is trapped.  Or, a narrative for what my like could be is trapped.  All those beliefs I have believed and tales I have been told and assumptions I have assumed--but how many of them are part of His narrative, the meta narrative, and how many of them have become the story of my life simply because it is the same narrative repeated over and over...?

Can I frame a new narrative for myself?

Is there another narrative He wants me to tell?

My narrative for the past five years has been about disease and exhaustion and doctors' visits and medical bills.  It has been isolation and rumination and depression.  It has been giving up on a lot of maybes and possibilities.  The admitting that compromise and sacrifice are necessary evils of living with chronic illnesses.

I cannot rewrite my story.  I am who I am who I am.  I will always have my past experiences and my chronic illnesses and my passions and likes.  But my narrative doesn't need to be dictated by sickness or past experiences.  Illness is my transit lane narrative, but that doesn't have to be my narrative at all.

I don't know how to ride the line between living with a chronic illness and not letting it control me.  It affects a huge part of how I live my life.  But I think that I've for so long wallowed (I'm not sure that's the appropriate word) in the knowledge of my diseases that my every experience and very reality has been shaped by that wallowing.  I don't want to live life that way.

Additionally, before illness more or less came to control my life, I had certain ideas and ideals about what I wanted to do with myself--what I wanted to devote my time and talents to.  Sometimes I wonder if being diagnosed with chronic illnesses wasn't a sort of get out of jail free card--an opportunity to start out on a pathway I had never given myself the room to consider, at least not since childhood.

I'm still figuring out who I am.  What I like and what I'm good at and where my talents and passions will collide.  I'm still learning what it means to be an introvert (more specifically, an INFJ) and a Highly Sensitive Person.  What it means to be a cancer survivor and live each day battling autoimmune disease.  How I can live a healthy and happy life, finding balance between recognizing my limitations and not giving up on dreams.

I want to make a difference in the world, but that dream seems like such an amorphous and ambiguous thing.  I know I want to create, and organize, and contemplate, and help, and connect, and be independent, and embrace my values.  I don't want my work to just be work.  I want it to be my mission.  But I also want to take care of myself while on that mission.  No more grandiose dreams of high-stress overseas work with people.  I just want peace, and beauty, and authenticity.

I don't want to feel constrained by my past experiences or limited by my degrees or jobs or what people have told me about myself or even what I have wrongly or rightly believed about myself.  Can't there be a new narrative?  An emerging trapped narrative?  One that is true and good, but simply buried by more visible story lines?  Or, by ones that are easier to believe or that fit together more neatly as an unfolding narrative "should"?

What if I was brave enough to tell a new story?  To unearth a trapped narrative?  What if my life became something that no one, not even I, ever predicted or envisioned for myself?

I don't know what it would mean to live a trapped rather than a transit lane narrative.  Somehow it seems harder, scarier.  But also richer.  Better.  More beautiful.

And that is what I want.  Richer, better, more beautiful.

God, help me tell my story.

My Non-Linear Trajectory

Sometimes it's difficult for me to accept that my interests evolve.  In my mind, I would like my life to reflect some kind of linear trajectory--logical and focused.  I want the central unique purpose for which I was created to be obvious in all of my jobs and volunteer efforts, etc.

However, as I get older I realize that nothing in my life has ever (ever) gone according to plan.  I wanted to be a missionary.  That desire became more focused, and I decided that I wanted to work overseas with children.  I wanted to attend a Christian college, where I thought that I would receive the best training for my intended career.  I ended up at a (very good) state school.  I started out majoring in Liberal Studies, and within only a few weeks of my first quarter of college discovered the program was not a good fit.  I waffled in indecision over my major for nearly two years.  My university approved a new bachelor's degree in Comparative Ethnic Studies.  The program required two Ethnic Studies courses to switch majors.  I registered for the prerequisite courses and applied to switch majors, not really knowing what Ethnic Studies was, but certain it would better prepare me for work overseas.  I went overseas and worked as a missionary for a year.  I hated it.  I returned home to the U.S. and discovered that I actually really loved Ethnic Studies.  I wanted to get my Ph.D.  I was accepted into a doctoral program.  I went to visit the school where the program was and I freaked out.  Despite being offered a full fellowship, I decided not to go.  I considered divinity school.  I thought it would prepare me for religion-focused research in a doctoral program down the road.  I tried two different divinity programs.  I hated them both and dropped out of them both, one year after the other.  I ended up working in special education at the same time I made the decision to get a master's degree in Women's Studies.  I started the program, realized it wasn't a good fit, and then transferred into an interdisciplinary program that allowed me to take more education coursework.  I graduated and got a job in special education and hated it.  Now I'm in retail.

There has always been an innate drive to help people and make a difference in the world, but I don't know that I've ever pursued the best and most appropriate means of doing those things.  I've chosen very extroverted and emotionally-draining roles, and as an INFJ and Highly Sensitive Person, I burn out quickly.  I don't know that I've ever found a job that truly embraces all of my gifts without totally wiping me out on an emotional, spiritual, and sometimes physical level.

I loved the Comparative Ethnic Studies program at Cal Poly, not just because the subject matter fascinated me, but because during that time my lifestyle was perfectly suited for my personality type.  I spent countless hours pondering issues and ideas that were meaningful and aroused my passions for those treated unjustly.  I was in class during the mornings, but had most of the day to work on projects or papers and make decisions about how I would manage my time.  Focusing on the experiences of oppressed peoples made me feel like I was somehow making a difference in the world, if only because I was becoming a more aware world citizen--and thus could potentially educate others.  I wrote and read and had engaging intellectual discussions.  I worked for my professors doing editing and creating handouts and fliers, which tapped into my artistic sensibilities and need to organize and attend to details.  I conducted oral history interviews for a number of ongoing projects, which allowed me to connect with people in deep and productive ways that were based on pre-determined questions and thus didn't exhaust me.  In terms of my Clifton Strengths, Intellection, Responsibility, Relator, Input, Achiever, I was actively making use of all of my greatest assets.

The desire to go on for a Ph.D. was largely to mimic my undergraduate lifestyle, and not necessarily for the doctoral title or program itself.  With a high strength of intellection, I am drawn to any role in which I have a significant amount of time dedicated to critical thinking and making connections between ideas.  This is both a blessing and a curse.  I love to contemplate and learn and study and focus on big ideas, but my interests are at times so diverse and disparate that it would be seemingly impossible to focus them into one doctoral program.  Can't I just go to school forever?

The last few years have resulted in a significant amount of self-discovery and self-analysis.  After I lived in China and discovered that I am an INFJ, my entire self-perception and worldview shifted.  So much about myself finally made sense.  When I discovered last year that I am also a Highly Sensitive Person, it was like the final piece of the puzzle fell into place.  I'm not crazy.  I don't think I am unique as an HSP who struggles with deciding on a career path.  I wonder how many HSPs are also INFJs, and how many of them also have a strength of intellection?  How many of them struggle with autoimmune disease or other physical manifestations of living in an over-stimulating world?

I've been thinking a lot lately about continuing on in my education.  I really do love being in school.  However, I feel paralyzed when it comes to choosing a program.  There are so many programs, and it feels like choosing one would be at the expense of a whole realm of interests.  It's also hard for me to choose a program without some kind of practical application in my mind's eye, because I want a job to be at the end of it, but I don't really know what job I want to do.  Does the job I want even exist yet?  Do I have to create my own job?  I've been reading a lot of online articles lately that basically tell me that the best option for a Highly Sensitive Person is self-employment.  That seems easier said than done.  I'd love to work for myself, but what kind of business would I be creating in the first place?  Can I get paid to think and organize?  Wouldn't that be nice...?

I've thought about continuing my education in Disability Studies, pursuing psychology, becoming a naturopathic physician or nutritionist.  I've considered doctoral programs in traditional fields like Sociology or Education, or nontraditional fields like Sex and Gender Studies.  Unfortunately, Ph.D. programs require you to submit a focused research proposal with your application, and when it comes down to it, I don't really know what I want to study.  Do I really want to conduct a major research project?  Can't I just read and think without having to worry about a dissertation?  Can't I just skip over all the politics of academia?

I know there are other people out there in the world that think and feel like I do.  I wish I knew my tribe.  I wish we could all band together and brainstorm and discover what each of us is meant to do.  I don't always mind doing the work of self-discovery, but sometimes I feel stuck and want to move forward--but I just don't know how.  I see so many of my peers that are happy and progressing in the normal socially acceptable ways.  I don't necessarily compare myself to them, but it does leave me to wonder why I can't just make decisions and when I will actually take action steps to change my life.  Will I ever really know what trajectory I'm on?  If my past is indicative of the future, my path will never be linear.  I think I'm in denial about this.

What do I want to do?  What do I really want to do?  I know I want to work in a quiet, scenic environment and have lots of time for thinking and reflection.  I want to be able to do something creative.  I want to be able to use my hands to organize--to sort and categorize.  I don't want a boss hovering over me.  I want my work to contribute to the greater good of humankind.  My MAPP Career Test results list the following as my "top motivations":

• I have a strong preference to work under the supervision of someone who is knowledgeable. I seek clear direction. I like to "learn the ropes" and develop expertise.
• I am motivated to gather, record, departmentalize, store and retrieve information.
• I am talented at spatial measurement and arrangement, artistic ability for factual image reproduction, attention to detail, awareness of machines and their function, and tolerance of routine.
• I have the ability to remember exactly what was written or said.
• I perform well in roles where I feel I can share information that makes a positive difference to others.
• I am motivated to carry out instructions for routine tasks in a familiar environment.

I wish that someone could simply read that list and say, "Aha!  I know exactly what you should do."  Somehow, I think this journey of self-discovery is ongoing.  As much as it pains me, I think that I will probably continue to try things and hate them as I whittle my way down to my true purpose.  Or, perhaps my purpose is simply to be a sojourner trying all these things, never really knowing where I am headed, but trusting that God is in control nonetheless.  Perhaps I am meant to experience as much life as possible so that I can relate better to and serve all people, and the true linearity of my trajectory is actually found in its inconsistency.  If that's the case, Lord, give me a willing heart...

My Future: A Poem

I want to live in a small cottage by the sea

And have a flock of schnauzers

And drink tea

And write

And have a vegetable garden

A Smart Car

And a big desk overlooking the water

And an art studio

A husband who will with me: go to Starbucks and play board games,

peruse local antique markets,

read on the front porch

I Am Valuable, My Life is Worth Living

I don't love myself.

It's a realization I've made during the past weeks, or perhaps months or even years.  I don't love myself or find value in myself, and so I haven't been taking care of myself.

I'm not usually the biggest fan of Joyce Meyer, but over the weekend I came upon some words she wrote that spoke to my soul.  We can't love ourselves until we are healed emotionally, and we can't heal emotionally until we accept God's profound and unconditional love.

The depression demon usually visits me a handful of times throughout the month, generally in relation to a combination between where I am in my hormonal cycle and how I've been eating.  Tonight I was trying on some outfits, and all I could think about is how fat I am.  I looked in the mirror at how big (objectively speaking) I've gotten in so many places, and it made me feel totally unattractive and undesirable.  Coupled with those feelings is my already low self-esteem resulting from knowledge of my diseases, and the belief that I'm abnormal and tainted and not someone who anyone would want to marry; I cry in desperation, feeling like an alien creature stuck in a life she doesn't want, but incapable of having anything more or different.

In reality, I'm only 20 pounds heavier than my "normal," a result of hormone imbalances, cancer, and a puttered-out thyroid.  However, I think much of my self-worth hinged on my thinness, and now that it's gone (objectively speaking), I don't feel good about myself.  Before that, I found value in academic performance and achievement.  Before that, the perceived strength and quality of my faith in God.  I'm not in school and I've moved away from my legalistic Christianity and into something that feels less certain and secure (the loss of legalism is a good thing, the loss of security is not such a good thing).  Without my previous appearance, or academic accolades, or the recognition of a mature faith journey, I no longer have anywhere to find value.  Except the value that God has inherently created me with.

So much of my life has been about performing and doing and achieving that I missed out on many years of just be-ing.  When I was a missionary in China, for the first time in my life I was surrounded by a team of people who spent time doing things they enjoyed, simply for pleasure.  That concept was so foreign to me.  I didn't even know what I really liked doing.  I remember starting to spend afternoons outside with my camera, and then I bought some paint supplies at a bookstore and painted some pictures for the first time ever, just because I could.  I bought fiction books.  I downloaded music and learned about different singers and bands.  I began to exercise and cook healthy foods.  I became less focused on the appearance of my life to other people, and made choices that brought joy to my heart.

I'm not sure what's happened in the past four years, except I think that somehow with my medical diagnoses I began to give up on my life a little bit.  I remember when I was first told I had Hashimoto's Thyroiditis and probably PCOS, my immediate thought was, "Well, I guess I'm not getting married."  Somehow a disease made me abnormal, and that abnormality made me unlovable, and to be unlovable meant I had no value.  I think that I've been caught in the web of this pattern of thinking since that day in the beginning of 2010.  I am abnormal, so I have no value.

It's difficult to come to terms with the physical ailments you've been born with--to know that God created you with these proverbial thorns in your flesh.  I know that we all have our weaknesses and idiosyncrasies and problems, but somehow because I now see that I am not and can never be perfect, I have lost all sense of self-worth.  Perfectionism is such a painful and exhausting addiction.

But then I think about how much God has created me to be able to offer to the world.  My emotional and spiritual and physical struggles are but fodder for the possibility of ministering to others--of feeding God's sheep.  My suffering makes me more real and authentic and genuine (I hope), so that I can be a source of comfort and respite and truth to the people around me.  And He has given me gifts, as a human be-ing, that are unique only to me.  And not only gifts, but a calling to which no other person has been called.

I think about so many people He has placed in my life, people who love and value and appreciate me for who I am and nothing I've done.  People who have loved me through the ups and downs of my autoimmune disease, the good days when I've been kind and grateful and warm, and the bad days when I've been depressed and cranky and cold.  People who have loved me through my cancer, showering on me their support by way of an outpouring of financials gifts and notes of encouragement.  People who have continued to seek out relationships with me, even when that seeking out is very much one-sided.  All of that love and support and seeking speaks volumes about the love of God, and if the people in my life have valued me in this way, how much more does my Abba Father lavish His value and love and pride on this little creature He has created--me?

Earlier this year, I began to see a counselor to help me with PTSD from a near-fatal car accident I was in two years ago.  During our first session, she gave me a list of positive self-affirmations and negative self-talk.  We discussed some of the phrases from the list that I want to come to believe to be true.  I no longer see the counselor, but I have since begun writing these positive phrases in my journal.  I think there is a lot of power in claiming these affirmations in my own writing in my own personal journal.  I also began to rewrite some of the affirmations as truths about God (i.e., God is in control; God can be trusted).

I haven't been very consistent about going to the gym since my cancer surgery, but tonight, amidst a mini emotional meltdown, I knew I just needed to get out of the house and focus my mind on something other than my own unhappiness.  As my endorphins kicked in and I actually began to feel the cloud of depression lifting, I began to say to myself, over and over:

My life is worth living.

And then I added to that:

I am valuable.

And so I pumped those elliptical pedals and chanted to myself, "I am valuable.  My life is worth living.  I am valuable.  My life is worth living."

I have begun to make a list of things I want to commit to doing every day and/or every week in order to nourish my body and soul.  If I feel trapped in my life and want things to go differently, I am the one that needs to take steps to change what is changeable.  I am going to start taking care of myself because I am valuable, and my life is worth living.

He made me valuable.  He gave me a life worth living.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can,

And the wisdom to know the difference.

Sanctified Artistically and Creatively

At some point, I will conclude my account of the day my thyroid was removed. I've felt guilty for not spending any time writing as of late--actually, I've felt guilty for not wanting to want to write. To be honest, going back to work about a week ago was completely exhausting for me. Though my mood is mostly good and I can keep up with my co-workers and complete typical day-to-day tasks, there's not much of an energy surplus when I get home to devote to creative endeavors or even exercising. The gym is something I typically do on a daily basis, but right now my body wants rest, so I'm giving it rest. I think my brain also wants rest, so I'm giving it the same treatment as my other parts.

I've been mulling over some thoughts during the past few weeks, and especially the past 36ish hours. Being surrounded by artists and fine art supplies every day certainly forces me to confront the reality that I'm not devoting any time to my own art. My camera sits in its bag, unused. My paints sit in my ArtBin, unopened. My collage cutouts sit in my desk drawer, unglued. I know that I need to extend some grace to myself for not accomplishing any projects, given that the past couple of months have been so focused on my cancer. At the same time, I can't blame my cancer for the months before my diagnosis in which I still wasn't cultivating my seeds of creativity. I know that I've been battling ill-health for some time now, but I also know that I have a good many excuses, most of them stemming from my perfectionism, that keep me from acting on this yearning to create.

As a child, my desire was to become an artist. That was my career plan for probably the first eleven years of my life. I had student artwork displayed in my community's art gallery. I read all I could about Vincent Van Gogh (and even dressed up like him for a research report in fifth grade, bandage-wrapped ear and all). I came home from school and immediately turned on the television to tune into "It's Curtoon Time!" My mom bought me art and craft kits for birthdays and Christmases. I spent my weekends designing outfits with my Barbie fashion design kit.

I don't exactly remember when, but sometime after fifth grade I stopped wanting to be an artist. There was a brief period of time where I wanted to be a veterinarian (because of my new-found interest in reptiles, via my lizard, Sam). I wanted to be an actress (because of praise after performances in classroom skits and winning a play-writing contest at school). I wanted to be a special education teacher (because I was a "big buddy" to a kindergartener with special needs). As I got older, my desire was less and less to create, and more and more to help others, particularly marginalized people groups. I became more serious about my faith in sixth grade, and shortly after that I decided that I wanted to be a missionary. I think that this desire resulted in part from my drive to help others, but also from the belief that it was what would bring me into greatest intimacy with God. What I can now say in hindsight, after working in full-time Christian ministry for a year, is that I am neither called nor gifted to do overseas missions.

For the past few years, I've bounced around in terms of career ideas and pursuits. My sister told me that I change my mind a lot, but my coworker suggested that I just haven't found my place yet. Amidst my missions work and brief divinity school stints and plans to get a Ph.D. and jobs working in special education, deep down I have wanted to be an artist. I don't know exactly what that means, but I think that God has guided me to the place where I can discover the meaning behind that desire.

Several years ago, I sought prayer from a spiritual leader at my church. During one of our meetings together, without having any prior knowledge of my childhood desire to become an artist, the leader told me that I was created to be an artist. She told me that I had been sanctified (set apart) artistically and creatively, and while we were praying she said that God gave her visions of beautiful pieces of art pouring out of me. I don't remember the exact descriptions of her visions, but I do remember feeling equal parts surprised and skeptical. In the days following our meeting, I went to the gym and chose an elliptical machine, and then realized some type of artist magazine was left on it. This was somewhat strange because I had been going to that gym off and on for at least six years at that point, and had only ever seen celebrity gossip magazines. But what made it even more strange was that there was a post-it note inside the magazine with the words "your article," and it was flagging a piece of writing that discussed becoming an artist(!).

Last night, I had the opportunity to attend a lecture and demonstration at work that featured a local oil painter. Interestingly, several years ago when I was actively involved in college ministry, I somehow obtained a bookmark with a picture of the painting "The Last Supper with Twelve Tribes." I never paid much attention to the artist's name, but I remember always having a fondness for the work. Well, imagine my surprise when I started my job a few months ago and learned that the man who made that painting is a regular customer at our store. He is the one who spoke at the work event last night, and his words reminded me that I have a gift and talent that need to be nurtured. Because of my perfectionism, I'm prone to give up on creative endeavors because right now I'm not at the level I want to be at. However, hearing about the effort this man invested in practicing and learning and becoming a good artist made me see that I need to actually set aside time and space to practice art--without placing expectations on myself. With all the jobs I've tried and career paths I've pursued, I keep coming back to this small voice of desire deep down in my heart, telling me that I need to be an artist, and it's time that I listen.

As I said before, I don't know what kind of art I want to create or even what tools or mediums I will use. All I know is that somehow as this journey slowly unfolds, it seems more and more connected and logical. Despite a resting brain and potentially muddled writing, I am posting this as: 1.) accountability to pursue artistic endeavors; 2.) a reminder that last night God stirred something in my heart.

Side note: I would like to draw attention to my insightfulness as a first grader.  Jon Holland, a psychologist, came up with the "Holland Occupational Themes"--six primary career strengths that are assigned based on personality.  My top two Holland Codes are artistic and conventional, essentially creating and organizing.  On the Holland Codes hexagon, my two strengths are directly opposite one another, meaning that the combination of those two strengths is possible, but rare.  At the age of seven, I was self-aware enough to know about my desires to create and organize, thus my conclusion that I would work in retail part-time (a conventional job), and as an artist the rest of the time (an artistic job).

The Day My Thyroid Was Removed, Part I

I had intended to write this post right when I got home from the hospital, but it didn't seem essential during those first few hours of recovery.  Plus, some recollection of that day is nothing more than vague, morphine-induced memory.

I woke up at 3:30AM.  I had only gotten about three hours of sleep, but I figured I'd be anesthetized in not too many hours, so a lack of sleep didn't bother me.  I was finishing packing, cleaning my room, getting Tobin's food and medicine situated so my brother could take care of him.  My parents and I left my house at 4:30AM.  My dad missed the turn for the freeway.  I was mad.  The madness mostly came from equal parts exhaustion and stress.  I'm actually glad my surgery was scheduled for so early, because I was so tired and it was so dark outside that I didn't have the clarity of mind at that point to really absorb what was going on.

We called my sister, per her request, when we were about halfway to the hospital.  She made weird cackling noises.  She made me laugh.  It was hard to hear her while we were driving, so I said goodbye.  We arrived at the hospital shortly after 5:30AM.  My dad parked the car in the paid hospital lot.  It was a little brighter outside, but the sun hadn't risen yet.  I grabbed my bag and hustled to the information desk.  There were two security guards there.  Apparently they were on duty until the hospital officially opened to the public.  They directed me down the atrium to the second door on the left.  My parents caught up with me and we made our way to the registration room.

I signed in on a clipboard.  We sat in leather waiting room chairs.  The registration clerk came to get me.  My mom and I followed her to her desk.  She typed a lot of information on her computer, took my insurance card.  Gave me a thick folder with a picture of a coastal cliff kissed by the sea.  She put an identification bracelet on my left wrist.  She walked me and my parents to the elevators and told us to go to the second floor and directly into the office on our right.

We arrived at the office.  Another couple was sitting in the chairs there, waiting.  My dad and I went to sit in some chairs across from the elevators.  My mom waited outside the office.  Another woman and her mother appeared on the elevators and made their way to the office.  My mom told them we were all waiting.  The woman asked what we were there for, and my mom told her I had cancer.  The lady hugged my mom.

A nurse arrived at 6AM, wearing scrubs and a backpack.  We saw a lot of that that morning.  He checked in the couple and escorted them through a door on the back side of the office.  My mom told me to come sit in the chairs inside the office.  The nurse took my name, then escorted my parents and me into a pre-operation room.  He told my dad he wasn't allowed to be in there yet.  My dad went to the lounge to wait.  The nurse laid a folded gown, some socks, and a plastic bag on the bed.  He told me to undress completely, and leave the gown open in the back and tied at the neck.  He also gave me a cup to pee in.  I had volunteered to be part of a research study, so this part was my doing.  The nurse told me to fill the cup before I changed.  I obliged.  Carried the cup back from the restroom to my little corner of the pre-op room.  I didn't know what to do with the cup.  I set it on a shelf.  I changed.  I laid down on the bed.  The nurses came and put a blanket on me.  They attached a tube to a slot in the blanket, and warm air blew in.  I decided then that it would probably be the best part of the day.

My dad was invited back in at some point.  I can't remember when.  Several nurses came in and out.  One of them took my pee cup.  Eventually a nurse came to put in my IV.  He was very good.  It didn't hurt at all (and I didn't even have a bruise afterwards).  He was having me open and close my fist, and then he tap-tap-tapped the veins on my hand.  He found one he liked.  Part of my agreement to participate in the research study involved giving my blood.  He took it from my hand through the IV needle.  It was weird.

Two anesthesiologists came in at different times.  The first one, a man, asked me a lot of questions--the same questions almost every nurse came in and asked me, mostly about allergies to medications.  He made me feel at ease.  He was wearing some kind of athletic zip-up.  The second one, a woman, came in wearing some kind of colorful surgical cap.  I want to say it had cats, but that's me brain filling in false information.  She asked me the same questions as the man, then told me it was time.  My parents stood up to hug and kiss me goodbye.  I started crying.  She wheeled me away and told me she makes people cry.  I told her it was my parents.  Then she said something about putting me to sleep, and put anesthetic in the IV.  We were wheeling through the hallways, out the pre-op room into one hallway, turned right into another hallway, turned right into the operation room.  I remember the ceiling.  It was white.  I remember the room was big, and I remember thinking it looked nothing like what I see in Grey's Anatomy.  I heard voices.  I heard my doctor's voice.  I felt relieved.  And then I remember nothing.

To Be Continued